The borders you have erected are only in your mind. These borders must be dismantled before the new light-filled Earth can materialize.
If you lived 100 years from now and could look back on the crossroads humanity faces today, you would know how important these moments are to you and future generations. You would be able to see the choices on the table and the decisions needed. You would have a clear understanding of the awesome potential humanity has now to shift into an existence based on love. You would see the alternative choice options, too, with their dire consequences.
Your inner wisdom – integrally connected to your spiritual self – already has this bigger picture. That wise part of you does not need to wait 100 years to have the fuller view. It knows right now, regularly nudging you to surrender your hurts so that you can become whole.
Most likely, you have noticed a sense of urgency to heal what feels broken about your past. It may feel painful to contemplate these things. If you are like most people, you have learned coping mechanisms for handling the pain: anger, blame, denial, retribution, or repression. None of these will heal you, of course, but this is your conditioning. Don’t blame yourself for having learned this, but decide today that you will waste no more time.
Tips for Forgiveness
Forgiving yourself and others is a key to being free. You are in bondage when you hold a grudge, regardless of whether you were wronged. This is true even if the person who hurt you intended to do so. This applies to your own self-sabotage, too. Forgive yourself for not knowing better and for being a work in progress. Apply love and gentleness to yourself and others. That is the remedy.
Forgiveness is a choice. It is a decision that is up to you to make. Don’t wait for others to forgive you first. Be the one who chooses the higher path of spirit – the path of letting go, forgiving, and seeing goodness in others. The longer you wait to choose that path, the more that you will suffer.
To forgive you must banish your learned victimhood. You are a divine changemaker, encoded to take charge of your life and to be a conscious cocreator of the world you experience. When you feel like a victim, it’s your ego taking charge, trying to convince you that you have no power. You task now is to learn to recognize the voice of your ego, refusing to let it be in the driver’s seat as you respond to life.
Decide that you will not allow toxic family relationships to block your spiritual progress. This is easier said than done, of course, because early life family wounds can feel as alive today as they did when you were a child. What keeps them alive? They remain alive when you replay the past in your mind and when you haven’t fully examined and healed dysfunctional family patterns. Your family members may be living and still in your life or you may be disconnected from them. Either way, without forgiving and letting go, you will carry the family baggage with you – impacting how you feel about yourself, other people, and your full potential. It takes courage and persistence to heal your past, but you indeed can do it. Take a stand with yourself today, deciding that you will monitor your self-talk about family, be present-focused, and be open to any healing still needed to finally let go.
Forgiveness means focusing on you. You cannot let go of past hurts when you are obsessing about other people, hurtful situations, and how others were mean. Forgiveness has nothing to do with changing others or changing the past. Let the past be the past. Take responsibility for your role and for allowing yourself to feel like a victim. Let go of seeing yourself that way – it’s not true. You are divine. You are a powerful spiritual being, having had a series of human experiences to evolve. You are remembering how to love and to be the love that you are.