Let us have discourse on the quality of love known as gentleness. This quality is discerned in an individual as one who is humble and gentle, someone who shows kindness in their nature, as someone who is peaceable and ready to do whatever is good and right. They express true humility by not considering themselves as too good or too important for humble tasks. They endure injury from another with patience and without resentment, keeping their own feelings under control and by doing deeds that are done in the humility that comes from inner wisdom. They have the noble ability to give way to the wishes of others by sometimes yielding all that is rightly their due. Like a gentle giant, they sacrifice their own rights for the sake of peace and out of love, generosity and sympathy for the other individual. In all situations, they exhibit restraint coupled with strength and courage. A gentle person does not seek to make other people angry. Gentleness within an individual desires that no harm be done. A gentle person is a non-violent person who chooses to act in a way that does not harm others. They are aware that there are gentle ways to be assertive, that there are non-violent ways to stand up for what is right, and non-manipulative ways to lead and inspire others.
The gentle person shows true strength by staying cool and overriding their human ego tendencies to be right above all else. They think first and then respond in a way that will best help the other person to understand non-violent logic. Gentleness in an individual may lose a few battles, but it helps win the overall struggle. A gentle response tends to create fewer enemies, and definitely more friends. Those who have an attitude of kindness by looking for ways that will benefit others will always treat others gently. This attitude can contribute much to the comfort of life and the peace of society by reducing friction between people. Gentleness is self-control displayed in a calm spirit based on an unshakable confidence in God and the goodness in others. Many people think of gentleness in an individual as being weak, timid, or passive but it is actually strength under control. It is this quality of love within that helps individuals to conquer themselves. Gentleness of spirit in an individual allows one’s spirit to move through them, making them loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, and self controlled. Gentleness is that quality which does not insist upon personal vindication. It does not always have to correct others and does not repay in kind. It does not return insult for insult and does not use force and intimidation to get one’s way.
Gentleness gains its strength from its steady and stable foundation of kindness. Daily practice of the qualities and virtues of generosity, compassion, mercy, gratitude, humility, and tolerance prepare an individual for the quality of gentleness. Only strong people can be gentle, because gentleness restrains strength by love. When one thinks only of oneself and not also of others, then it is easy to hurt others unintentionally. It is only possible to be gentle with others when one has learned to be gentle, kind and compassionate with oneself. Each individual speaks their words, and takes action, whether great or small, with the utmost gentleness possible. This thoughtful approach can serve as a model for others to emulate. The motivating power behind gentleness is always love – love of the other for whose sake one restrains oneself. To behave in a gentle manner requires that one stays centered in one’s values and strength and in one’s reactions to change. Worry, fear and sudden outbursts of anger become a thing of the past. One sleeps in peace because their conscience is clear. One’s tone of voice softens and one smiles more and expresses less criticism and instead gives more encouragement and empowerment to others. Learning and living becomes a joyful experience where everyone’s gentleness is the rule of the day. Once one tastes the effect of gentleness in oneself and in others, one will never want their old way of relating to others back again.
In all things, it is best to be kind and loving with gentleness in one’s voice. This gentleness is a reflection of deep love. This love is so subtle that to be in the presence of such a gentle one can soothe an aching heart. Their words of wisdom can untangle the most confused mind. One speaks gently and effortlessly in a simple and profound way. One’s message of love and truth which comes from the heart profoundly touches the hearts of others. It is wise to nurture one self from the inside out, to be in flow with life instead of resisting and delaying it. One can freely acknowledge one’s present moment in its entirety. One can include every aspect of it, from the playful, joyful moments, and from the uncomfortable and challenging ones. One acknowledges one’s accomplishments and enjoys little successes as they happen by celebrating with small rewards in that moment. They do not rush to the next thing by overlooking and postponing the celebration that acknowledges their victory. Slowing their life down by simplifying their tasks and making a commitment to doing less instead of more is being gentle with oneself. Listening to one’s body and following its guidance by practicing mindful healthy eating is being gentle with oneself. Allowing and choosing to release and let go of the stories about the past that constantly keep replaying in one’s head is a powerful way of being gentle with oneself.
By saying no in a gentle way to the commitments that don’t serve their values, one is learning about the power of discernment and becoming deliberate in one’s choices. One must get rid of the old before one can take on the new by creating a daily time to relax and just be. One can avoid burn out in one’s activities and their effect on one’s well being. By following their intuition and listening to the gentle guidance from within them, one avoids overanalyzing the situations in one’s life to the point of exhaustion. Being gentle with oneself if one does not know all the answers is perfectly acceptable. By following these precepts, one’s world takes on a different appearance, a world that is kinder, more meaningful, more abundant and more compassionate. When each individual takes time to reconnect with their authentic self and the divinity within them, they are gentle with themselves and they accept all of their imperfections. When they replace fear with trust and learn to let go of the things they cannot control, they have learned to be gentle with themselves.
May each of you practice gentleness with yourselves and with the people around you, taking care as you walk gently in the world.
I AM Archangel Gabriel
©2014 Marlene Swetlishoff/Tsu-tana (Soo-tam-ah) Keeper of the Symphonies of Grace
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