And so this Quest continues…and my life conspires to be sure maximum understanding results. A large and unexpected curve ball threw itself into the mix at lightning speed, whispering – “You think you can just ignore me? They don’t call me an addiction for nothing! Get a load of this!”In an unexpected moment I was looking at everything I have come to believe and faced with a decision that felt paramount. Would I succumb to self-destructive luxuries? Would I choose something new? Continue reading
We are One. This idea is difficult to wrap your head completely around. It only works without judgment. Understand that judgment is not the same as opinion. There will always be people, attitudes, colors, foods, smells and activities you like more than others. You will prefer to “hang with” your favorites. That doesn’t mean the other colors, attitudes, people, foods, smells and activities are wrong. They are not. It is only that they are different than your favorites. Some things are just not your favorite. That’s okay. They are still perfectly acceptable. Easy to unravel when you think of it that way… It makes sense.
Now, think about the last time you were hurt, or any time when you were clearly and undeniably hurt, regardless of when. Stick to emotional hurts for this discussion. Put yourself there and remember the moment you felt wronged, misunderstood, mistreated, abused even. Sense the blame rise in you and feel your body react. Now, step away and watch. Notice how in that moment you’ve become powerless. This “other” has taken control of your world momentarily. You are surrounded in judgment and it feels intense. Is this a place you would choose to move into?
Lovingly and gently, tell yourself about the place you’d rather be. There are still opinions and favorites in this place, but they exist without judgment. You may be laughing there or you might by joking around and playing in this place, yet whatever you are doing, you are doing it consciously. There is no “wrong” terrible enough to take your power away. Nothing is worth your sovereignty. Blame is a dependent condition. You cannot be sovereign while believing it is real.
If you and I are One, than blame is an illusion; I am only accusing myself and pretending it’s you. Whatever righteous indignation I feel as a result won’t last and comes with a host of additional physical responses I’d rather avoid.
You’ll have to decide what you are willing to give up. It will come to a moment of truth. That’s what it takes to love without condition. It takes a release of finger pointing, judging, “tsk-ing”, complaining and blaming. Each of these is rooted in fear. Your new place only has room for Agape.
You may be immersed in habits of judgment and reasons for unhappiness. All habits can be changed, once you make the decision to do so.
Today you’ll have to choose how much your addiction to blame or judgment is worth. You can choose again, gradually, tenderly and lovingly. This is not about whose fault anything is, it’s about the creation of a new basis for your relationships and your life.
This place, the one we are entering, is based on unconditional love. It is inclusive. It is forgiving. It is like being embraced in complete acceptance.
This is the place of your most cherished dreams. The door is not locked. You can enter any time. Some of us are already there. Welcome home. We are the Ones we’ve been waiting for.
See you tomorrow.
What does it feel like? It feels like an absence of expectations. Not an absence as if there is only emptiness left, but as if we’ve made no demands on the behavior of another. The ability to live that way will grow from a life lived without demands on you. Not a life without hopes, goals, aspirations, plans or dreams, no. A full life of all those things! But as well – a life without feelings of bitter disappointment when situations and people show up otherwise.
What someone does or does not do has nothing to do with how much they love you. What someone does or doesn’t is an announcement of how they are feeling about themselves at the moment.
You are the whole point. You can’t be the answers to anyone’s prayers, the only love of someone’s life or anyone’s savior. You can be the answer to your own prayers, the love of your own life and your personal savior. What this means is that once you let go of self-judgment and criteria for perfection – you are free to love without restriction.
This freedom comes with recognition of all of your parts. We spoke yesterday about uncovering the uncomfortable ones. Discomfort is part of life here in 3D; part of the contrast. It is a repeated unhappiness, one that feels all too familiar, that has stopped your liberation. That’s the discomfort referred to here. Why is it so hard to see what causes this “really not fun” emotion? It is hiding so well that it shows up without announcement or discussion. It’s like the color of your eyes, a part that looks that way every time you are reflected. Every time, no matter who is holding the mirror, your eyes look the same.
This reaction/feeling is not a permanent reflection. No, it is something you built years ago, as a child or young adult. It can be changed. If you want a better shot at self-love, it’ll have to be. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just not useful. When you built it, you were using all the information and ability you had at the time. You know more now.
So let’s say you recognize the cycle; the feeling is all too familiar and it feels “bad”. If you’ve listened to Esther Hicks, she talks about our Internal Emotional Guidance System as being our feelings. A bad feeling doesn’t mean something is wrong out there – it means something is wrong with how you FEEL inside about what’s out there. It’s all you, all the time.
Once recognition happens, congratulate yourself! You’ve found the culprit and drawn him/her out in the open. Now, just love. There is no rejection in Agape. Oneness includes every aspect, word, emotion and fractal we are.
This will not be easy. Old habits are hard to break and we humans have addictive personalities. It will be easier when you envision what’s waiting for you at the other side of this addiction: choice, fearless love and an open heart. Once you become the love of your life, the rest of us will join you. You’ll see. It’ll be amazing. We are the One’s we’ve been waiting for.
See you tomorrow.
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Step way back and look at the big picture. It includes the whole of what you are. Stepping into this new place is not difficult – it is different. You haven’t operated this way previously. You’ve been mesmerized by 3D YOU. This is the you that was born to the parents you have now; the you that has lived the life you know to be yours today.
The big picture refers to this life as well as every other fractal/lifetime. You may not remember the others consciously, but you can feel them. They are the parts of you who have been everyone and felt everything else. This new paradigm allows access to all of your parts. You are One.
As One, there is no “other”. None to blame. None to hurt. None to fail. None to disappoint. None to be afraid of. None to have expectations of. None to owe. All of these “others” can be left behind.
It is only with awareness of our totality that Oneness is possible. It is only without dependence that sovereignty is accessed. Awareness is what will transform every thought of lack, fear, blame, doubt or expectation. There is no pat answer.
You are striving for the ultimate – pure creation. This will grow out of an understanding that always, always you are taken care of and cherished, honored and respected. With each creation episode you are living the ultimate – life. It’s all life. There truly is no good or bad, here or anywhere. Only your attachment to pain makes it so.
There is no reason for it but experience. You have been looking for reasons for the pain. There are none. Those you’ve “blamed” for inflicting it upon you are searching for the same thing. We all are.
What will you do without blame? I can tell you this. The primary beneficiary of a blameless heart is you. Unconditional acceptance eventually leads to continuous gratitude. A day immersed in gratitude in gratitude is a very good day.
Feel good about yourself. You have come so very far and have felt so many things to get to this place today. There is no other who compares to you. You are the One you’ve been waiting for.
See you tomorrow.